The other day, I received a text message from a non-Christian friend of mine. I think you’re really sexy & intelligent, and I think sex before marriage is fine. Do you want to catch up for lunch or dinner this week? When I recovered, I messaged back, apologizing if I had done anything to give him the idea I wanted to be anything more than friends.I wasn’t interested in a romantic relationship with this particular non-Christian man. I’d spent years as a youth group leader telling teenage girls not to have sex before marriage and not to date or marry non-Christians.Are you freaked out by the idea of dating an SCD—you know, a Super-Christian Dude? But still, I find myself wary of guys (and gals) who are, you know, Christian. I have been rejected on more than one occasion by a woman who considered me to be “too Christian” for her taste, and while I won't pretend to be able to speak for these women, I do wonder how much their decisions were informed by my reality as opposed to their preconceived notions.Have you avoided men with online profiles touting their “love of the Lord”? I’m convinced that both men and women tend to approach relationships with a set of assumptions about potential partners, and I think religion is one trait that is too often judged based upon fiction rather than fact. Christianity is the largest religion in the world, claiming 2.2 billion of the world’s 6.9 billion people, as of last year.It’s a question that is regularly asked, but not always accurately answered.It confuses, perplexes, and even angers both Christians and non-Christians alike.and advocate of twelve-step programs for healing, says often people try to justify their own issues using the Bible: "If a person has a control issue, then his mode of operating will attract him to all those verses of Scripture that support his need to control, in this instance, ‘Wives be submissive.’ Other verses, such as ‘Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her’ (Ephesians ) would not stand out for him," Vogt explains. That guy likely chose to justify his behavior by clinging to certain Bible verses. Are there Christians who have a naive, simple-minded view of the world and can’t seem to think for themselves? But there are also Christian Nobel Laureates and Supreme Court Justices.Are there overbearing misogynists who seem to believe that Jesus wanted them to control their wives? But there are also plenty of Christian men who have learned by their Christian faith that both men and women have an inherent dignity and that women present unique gifts to the world where men lack.
Speaking for myself and all the other SCDs who never stood a chance in this modern dating labyrinth, I think we deserve a shot. That number includes everything from Roman Catholics and Russian Orthodox to Southern Baptists and Evangelical Lutherans.
To make things trickier still, some non-Christians have higher morals, and are more faithful and understanding than their fellow Christians.
It's a dilemma, and it does seem unfair of God to restrict us to the few that are Christian in the real sense. In the end it distracts from the real meaning of Christian life.
It sounds elitist, holier-than-thou, and downright condescending. I’m 28 this year, I’m single, and one of the most common things I hear from my friends goes something along the lines of: And while I wholly believe in their well-meant intentions, I think its about time someone explained the reason behind this “pickiness”, lest it be classified as another irrational, snobbish Christian standard to live by.
A long time ago, I went out with someone who, besides not being a Christian, I guess was more or less perfect for me.