Every girl who is looking for her Prince Charming always envisions a tall, dark and handsome man.Few descriptions of this person ever describe his mental condition; however, psychology tells us that if a person is tall, dark and handsome, the halo effect that we ascribe to him will automatically include intelligence, wit and mental stability.Haltzman is clinical assistant professor in the Brown University department of psychiatry and human behavior.He's also medical director of NRI Community Services in Woonsocket, R. and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men and The Secrets of Happily Married Women.(If you are unfamiliar with the halo effect, it simply means that a person with one good quality is seen to have many good qualities.)Few, if any women will ever achieve this perfect vision in their real lives.I have yet to meet the perfect woman on this earth, so we can assume that there is no such thing as a perfect man.
Finally, he says, "She asked me to leave because she couldn't live with the illness anymore." When people get into a relationship, they're looking for stability, says Scott Haltzman, MD.Sara was twenty-seven, and what people used to call a wag: smart, quick-witted, encyclopedic.She could recount every failed Everest expedition in mesmerizing detail -- the sort of a talent I would expect of a rock climber, not someone who'd never gone camping. Then I found out."There's something you should know about me," she said, a couple of hours into the date. I tried to remember if I'd sipped from her drink."I'm bipolar," she said."Good," I replied.When Jim Mc Nulty, 58, of Burrillville, Rhode Island, got married in the 1970s, everything seemed fine at first."It was an absolutely normal courtship," he recalls. During his "up" or hypomanic states, he would spend huge sums of money he didn't have.