When he broke up with me the next day, I pointed out that maybe he should have pulled the plug before I gave him a Christmas present, not to mention a hand-job. Still, my pathological reluctance to drop money at my beloved JCrew when they’re offering a whopping thirty percent off an obviously perfect gift is probably not normal.
At any rate, it’s a bitch to figure out what’s appropriate and what’s completely insane when it comes to gifts for a new boyfriend.You're not close enough to plan a trip to Aruba together, nor are you close enough to give him an electric tweezer to take care of his stray hairs. Nothing says, "I'm still getting to know you," like making an extended offer to combine liquors, and nothing says, "we aren't quite at the sweatpants and wine phase in our relationship yet," like making an effort to learn how to make fancy-schmancy cocktails together. They're less creepy than a tattoo of his initials less expensive!But just because you aren't comfortable manscaping him (…yet), doesn't mean you have to get him something lame for Valentine's Day. It's also a subtle way to clear out his souvenir shot glass cabinet for some whiskey and bitters. And each of the above has its perks: At a concert, you can dance like maniacs together and bond over your sweet, sweet dance moves. There's a reason tha hardcover books make great gifts, and no, that reason is not "they look soooo good on my built-in bookshelf." They can provide you with amazing, smart, interesting, provocative conversation. Bottom line: Reading is sexy, and always will be.12. OK, maybe nobody says that, but a quirky mug that can give a coffee drinker a chuckle in the morning is a pretty good (and not crazy-expensive) gift.By encouraging people to tell stories about themselves, you not only learn about their history but also about them from the way they talk about their lives.These questions are designed to spark the imagination of the person and drift off into speculation.